What to Look For in a Partner (Hint: It’s Not Shared Interests)

Sometimes I look back at 18-year-old Becky and think: damn…was that girl really smart, or just super lucky? 🧐😅

I met Justin in one of those transitional, vulnerable life phases when you’re desperate for an anchor—someone consistent, reliable, truly partnering with you through the unknown.

22 years later, 40-year-old Becky still wakes up feeling so lucky to be in love with @searls. Who else would happily tolerate my random Downton Abbey obsession to the level of:

• ✨ Saying “Go for it!” when I suggested visiting Highclere Castle in the UK
• ✨ Planning a date night for the final Downton Abbey movie premiere

Here’s the thing: Justin doesn’t love Downton Abbey (or, frankly, fitness or lifting weights 😅). He loves me.

And that means he’s all-in for anything that brings me joy, even if it’s not his thing.

That’s the kind of support that makes a relationship feel like an everyday epic romance. The gift of someone who cheers you on, quietly supports and even enjoys your quirks, and evolves with you as passions and interests change over the years.

💡 So tell me: what do you look for in your relationships? Whether with a partner, friends, family, or colleagues—

• 👉 What values matter most to you?
• 👉 How do you feel most supported?
• 👉 And how do you ensure the people you love feel seen, heard, and understood in return?

Because at the end of the day, joyspan—the long, healthy, enjoyable life we all want—isn’t just about what we get from others. It’s also about what we give. ❤️